The Ryan Cameron Morning Show recently talked with grief counselor Edy Nathan after finding her article that sparked a lot of reaction from listeners that were also dealing with feelings off of loss.
Here is the list from Nathan that is very helpful for those struggling through this holiday.
– Celebrate the day and enjoy the appreciation of your current family members
– Continue to buy a card for your mother and express what you truly want to say to your mom and reconnect in a way that is meaningful to you. Just because your mom is gone, your attachment or connection to her will be part of who you are. You will internalize your mom into your thoughts as an element to help you navigate through life.
– Buy yourself flowers that were favorites of your mother and remind yourself of her memory. Share one or more of these flowers with people in your life who you love and appreciate.
– Celebrate the memories of your mother by sharing the stories with others
– Focus on taking care of yourself and any dependents that you have. If people or commitments stress and exhaust you and are not absolute necessities, take a break from them this week until after Mother’s Day is over.
– Seek out trusted people who support and nurture you.
– Join a local bereavement group, especially MeetUp.com that offers many opportunities to speak to like-minded individuals who are trying to navigate through the grief process
– Consider taking a four day “Turning Grief into Grace” Cruise that incorporates self-help workshops about grief, while you interact with others who cope with loss.
– Be attentive to your physical needs. Grief is exhausting. When you suffer a loss you may feel foggy, be forgetful and be intensely over-whelmed at even the most minor things. Grief has an impact on the brain. Though temporary, the changed chemistry can last many months. Be patient and gentle with yourself while you heal.
– Grief is like your fingerprint! No one grieves exactly like you. No one has the right to tell you how fast you should be getting over your grief. Grief is not something one simply “Gets Over.” You integrate it into life. The goal for turning Grief into Grace is to “Remember with Peace.”
Listen to the full interview here: