Ask Egypt: “I Need Some Closure”

Dear Egypt,

Two months ago I was dumped by my boyfriend. I personally thought things were going great. I found myself staying in the house on nights that I wanted to hang with my friends; met his parents and they said they loved me – I even stayed in town when I had a good job offer to move elsewhere.

All of a sudden he started acting very distant, so I asked him what was up? His response was that he had “trust issues.” I told him that though we’d only been together for a few months, that I cared about him deeply and wanted to prove to him that he could trust me.

Three days later he gave me the ole “we need to talk…”

It has now been two months since our break-up. Two months of tears. Two months of heartache, and we have not exchanged a single word.

I’m getting ready to move to another city for a job offer. But the thing is, I need closure. Is it worth reaching out to this guy to ask him the answers to all the questions I’ve been harping on for months?


Big, Bold & Beautiful

Dear BBB,

I’m a wondering what this man could possibly say to give you closure? Do you really need a speech to make you feel better? It sounds like you were trying to build a relationship, but he was just kicking it.

We have to stop making people priorities, when they only make us options!

Believe people when they show you who they are. Pay attention to actions, not just words.

When a man wants you TRUST ME  YOU WILL KNOW! There are no “ifs,” “ands” or “buts” about it. If you have a brother’s heart he will send a blimp up into the sky.

But what men won’t do is tell you when they DON’T want you. They’ll let you hang around as someone they are just “kicking it” with. They expect us to read in between the lines.

So let me break it down for you…

“I like you” does NOT mean “I love you.”

“I enjoy having sex with you” does NOT mean “I want to be in a relationship with you.”

As women, we always wanna marry somebody, BUILD with everybody. Stop that! Learn to date.

Or else you’ll keep trying to build relationships with people who are bringing mud pies to the table. It will never be a solid foundation.

Love you!

  • Kimberly

    With that job offer in another city, that’s the key, see sometimes we spend so much time looking in the REARView Mirror, we Fail to see the Road ahead.
    If he hasn’t reach out that’s Your Closure,
    *Silence is Golden @ this time for you BBB*

  • MissSy

    Big, Bold & Beautiful, don’t ever,ever, ever, let me repeat, ever give up your dreams, ambitions, a job offer in another city or an opportunity to better yourself for a man who is givng you less than you are giving him. Men like women who have lives outside of them. The only trust issues he has are those within himself. Even if he has an answer to why he all of a sudden began acting the way he was, you probably won’t believe him. Move and be glad you didn’t get stuck with that dud. Good luck in your new city, with your new job. Maybe you will find your a new man to go with it.

  • Rashonda-Shonda Jones-Aiken

    This is my opinion! I don’t think it’s a trust issue; I think it’s something else that he is just not saying or he could be cheating and maybe that was his way of breaking up with you. Let that drama mess go and go take that job offer and move on. Don’t sit around waiting and wondering what he thinks or what he wants. I agree with the person who replied back. Stop putting yourself last and stop putting the guy ahead of you. If this guy was really into you if he wouldn’t have said “We Need To Talk” unless he found out something about you. That’s a cheating line right there. Once you leave to another city he may or maynot realize what he had in the first place. If it was meant to be it was meant to be. Always follow your heart and your gut. Good luck and I hope you take the job offer!

  • Mizz Gray

    Im glad I read this because I went threw something similar. After a month he wanted to meet my friends and mom. Then a couple of days later it was we need to talk. I doubted myself so much to the point I called my exes just to make sure I was doing everything right.

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